- Jun 25, 2011
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This has been a crazy week for people expecting favors and being extremely ungrateful. Most of it's been the same person. My daughter's one friend spends so much time with her--especially over the summer--that people have asked us if we adopted. We take her just about everywhere with us and we're who she calls if her mom fails to pick her up or can't/refuses to take her somewhere, which is quite often. Her mom never has a problem with us taking her places in those instances, but she'll frequently tell her at the last second that she can't go someplace fun with us. She's implied that it's because she doesn't approve of how "lenient" I am. I'm not, really, but I'm not insanely overbearing like she is, so there's some conflict in our priorities.This is exactly why I never depend on anyone; most people out there are *****h@#@s. Screw them.
Anyway, I was supposed take the girls out earlier this week. We'd been planning it for quite a while and the mother had approved. As I was driving over to pick the friend up, she told her she wasn't allowed to go. The next day, the girls had a volunteer project they were working on. It was an hour away. After taking them to breakfast, I drove the girls to their project in the morning with the understanding that the mother would pick them up that night. About five minutes before I would have to leave to get them, my daughter texted me to say that her friend's mom refused to pick them up. I went and got them, took them to dinner (they only provided lunch during the project and the friend had no food in the house), then took the friend home. The mom was conveniently out of the house when we got there.
The next night I got a text from the friend. She'd been at a school event a little over half an hour away but it had ended 30-45 minutes earlier. Her mom wasn't responding to her calls and texts. I ran out and picked her up then got her dinner again (still no food at the house). On the way back her mom called, said she was at work and then yelled at her for calling me for a ride. This is far from the first time something like this happened.
Yesterday the girls had practice. I said I'd take them and was planning on picking them up early so they could have lunch first. We were literally less than a minute from their house when the friend texted my daughter and asked us to not pick her up yet because her mom had come home from lunch and had changed her mind about her being allowed to go out to lunch with us. She still expected us to take her to practice but we weren't allowed to take her to lunch beforehand. We drove around for another 20 minutes then picked her up. The practice was far enough away that it was stupid and impractical to go to lunch, come back for the friend, then try to make it to practice on time. The mother had insisted on picking them up from practice, texting, "I don't want you riding home with that man!" Twenty minutes before practice ended, my daughter texted and asked me to pick them up because something had come up and the mother couldn't get them. Like usual, she told the girls to call me for a ride.
All in all, I've spent 6-7 hours driving the friend around this week, not counting the time spent preparing for the aborted plans and the pointless drive to their house, or the meals I bought her. I'm still waiting for the thank you note from the mom.