The sad part is you're not entirely wrong, those things definitely do happen alot more then we care to admit. I personally don't love the single life though, I find it boring and unfulfilling. Relationships are definitely not for everyone. I personally feel like I don't want to just live for myself. People can live their lives however they want as long as they're not harming anyone in the process. I just want someone to share my life with as cliche and antiquated as it sounds.
I sincerely hope this is not the norm for too many people ..... (not the single life part but the last bit there)I'm fully aware that my opinions on this topic are not going to be the norm, but I'm a 47 year old bachelor and I love the single life. I have yet to meet a woman who makes me want to give that up.
To be blunt, women simply don't bring enough value to the marriage equation these days for marriage to be worth it. They definitely don't bring enough to the relationship to balance out the risks. You get married, a few years pass and you think things are going good; but then she gets bored, finds someone new, and files for divorce. If you're lucky, you will only lose half of all you own and be thrust into poverty for years, maybe decades. If you are unlucky, she'll bring false charges of abuse against you and you get arrested for something you didn't do. I've seen it happen too many times with friends and family members. So, no thank you. I'm better off on my own.
DJcos25, it's possible she was talking to several guys at once. You did nothing wrong with asking her out. The messaging back and forth for a long period of time is annoying and a waste for the most part.
The girl that I've been talking to is in her last semester before her degree and pretty much told me she isn't looking to start a relationship right Now. She said she loves just talking to me and hanging out though. So I will be friends with her in the meantime. Nothing wrong with having a hot female friend. And I'll still keep my eyes open in the mean time and look for other ones to talk to.